Social Intelligence and Empathic Resonance
I’ve been reading a book called Social Intelligence by the author of Emotional Intelligence, Daniel Goleman. It accounts for some of the effects we all experience as we tune in to other people, such as empathic resonance and the concept of the Japanese amae; “feeling felt”.
Why is this important?
According to Goleman, our level of social intelligence determines our success not just as Leaders, but in all our relationships and social interactions – and the sense of fulfilment we derive from them.
In it he talks about the ‘high road’ of the thinking mind and the ‘low road’ of the emotional, quick to react side of us that makes snap (and often correct) decisions about people and situations.
He says, “the low road, with its ultrarapid mirror neuron links, operates as a sort of sixth sense, prompting us to feel with another person, even though we may be only vaguely aware of our attunement.”
Why your spindle cells matter.
Does this attunement account for our ability to enter a room and immediately sense the atmosphere? Could it be that our “spindle cells are responsible for the secret of the speed of social intuition?”
Social Intelligence is the key to better relationships.
Our ability to tune into emotions as we approach someone, even when they choose to hide them, is something that can be honed.
Perhaps realising that this is something we are all hardwired for, makes the process conscious when we need it to build bridges and establish closer connections.
It seems that these “always-on” neural pathways are responsible for our ability to read people and situations with incredible accuracy, meaning that this is not just simply a survival instinct, but the essence of how we form close relationships.
Being present is what gets you there.
One of the ways I help clients tune in better to others is by listening with a completely blank mind. This makes you completely receptive to how your body is responding, which takes you out of your head and means you get the true meaning of the message.
One that’s not distorted by your emotions, thoughts, biases, and assumptions.
If you’re interested in learning how to become a more authentic, compassionate, and inspirational leader, contact me.
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1985
In Sales at Oral B, I investigate what I'm doing to achieve 93% conversion rates and 98% customer loyalty. My insatiable curiosity is rewarded when I finally find something that stretches and challenges me: non-verbal comms. Realise that I have the power to change and start my lifelong personal development journey.
1993
Train people to develop/have confidence in their intuition, understand vibrational communication and connect core to core by deconstructing and normalising it. Gain extensive National TV, print and media coverage because of my down-to-earth approach. Now run 6 successful businesses. Add Marketing, PR + Strategy to my skillset.
1999
Become a parent. By 2000 over 15,000 delegates have had Intuition and Connection training. Disillusioned, stifled and stuck, I remain committed to demystifying these skills and taking them mainstream to a global audience.
2024
Corporate Learning and Development with a focus on Consultancy, complex problem solving, operations, strategy and leadership development. Another 1,500 delegates take my courses and 121 coaching. Continue travelling around Asia freelance. Comms Lab is born.
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